Stuck? Follow your passions.

This winter we had a pretty big ice storm here in TN.  If you are from around here you know that when ice happens in TN, things get a little crazy.  Well, in the middle of said ice storm, I needed to get to work so I decided to brave the ice and find a way out of our driveway.  

After spending an hour trying to melt the ice off "Scooter" (my car) because it was too thick to scrape, I finally made enough progress to back out of my spot. I backed up and immediately started sliding around. I only had about 10 inches on both sides between my car and the large truck and SUV on either side.  I then tried to pull forward and back up again only to start spinning with no traction and only movement closer to the cars beside me.  I started to panic. I tried for a good 7 minutes and then remembered that 4 wheel drive is quite amazing for navigating icy streets. I was able to throw it into 4 wheel drive and then safely get out of the drive and not hit anything. 

The point of telling you all that, is this: 

We all get stuck.  Sometimes we literally get stuck in the ice or we find ourselves in a place in life that seems like it will never end, get better or be what you really want. 

In those times, it is easy to get discouraged and worried about how to get out of the rut you have found yourself in.  We panic, freak out, pout, cry or scream because we just don't know what to do. 

I have found three ways to get "unstuck" or at least find some movement in the right direction.

1. Be Grateful.

Take a moment to recount what got you where you are.  Write down some lessons you learned along the way.  Find at least 3 things to be grateful for in your journey here.

2. Look Back

Next, reflect on the things you have enjoyed in the past.  What activities make you happy? What brings you immense joy? Is there some idea you have for your life that you can't seem to shake? When you were younger what were some of your dreams? Write those down. 

3. Act on your passions. 

Take a look at that list you made.  Over the next 30 days, make time to pursue at least one of those things that you are passionate about.  Love to paint? Dig out those supplies and get to it. Are you a singer? Grab a hairbrush and sing your heart out! So many times our passions lead to what is next and help us to navigate the road ahead.  

What are you waiting for? 


Why I Dumped Over Half of My Wardrobe

Over the last month, I have broken up with over half of my wardrobe. Why, you ask? Great question. 

A few months ago, I heard about "Capsule Wardrobes".   After reading about what exactly a capsule wardrobe was, I was definitely NOT interested.  (Read all about capsule wardrobes here) I have always loved clothes, I have always loved shopping....why in the WORLD would I want to limit myself to just 37 pieces of clothing a season??

I dismissed the thought of this being something that was for me and went on about my day. Problem was, the idea didn't leave me.  Thoughts about minimizing my wardrobe started to creep in frequently.  

"Why not me?"

"What could i have to lose?" 

"What if it was liberating?"

I began asking myself tough questions about why I needed all the clothes.  And I got some answers that were somewhat unexpected. 

You see, in the process, I realized that I have used clothing to fill an insecure place in my life.  I realized that I kept looking for just the right article of clothing that would make me feel beautiful and ultimately, I was hoping an article of clothing would give me the healthy body that I long for. Guess what, in 32 years, I haven't found one single article of clothing that could fill my deepest longings to feel beautiful or that could make me choose to create the healthy me I wanted.  I found clothes I enjoyed but after the high of the purchase, I was the same Vicky looking back at me in the mirror. 

Maybe you too have experienced the ache to feel _______, followed by a type of frenzy, searching for the item to calm the ache, and SCORE - FOUND, "ahhhh.....I'm good".  Then the next day, "I have nothing to wear (that makes me feel beautiful)"....the vicious cycle continues. 

That has been my reality.....the ache and my constant striving to fill that little monster with another piece of clothing. 

BUT let me tell you something - I FEEL SO LIBERATED!  Dumping over half my wardrobe and setting some guidelines for myself is exciting and freeing (and a little scary). But now, I have pieces I really enjoy wearing and only those pieces so it eliminates the stress of figuring out what to wear.  Also, I will only shop for clothing one month before the next capsule season, so I eliminate impulse buying to fill some need.  It's a win for so many reasons. 

This capsule wardrobe thing is helping me to dig in to what I really need and I am learning that I need to address the real need vs. the nagging aches.  I'm learning, and dumping over half of my wardrobe is teaching me so many valuable lessons. 

I already feel so much lighter!